I’ve been there many times myself. We decide on a goal we want to achieve with our fitness progress. We head straight to the internet to find profiles and people to follow in the hopes we will SO motivated by their stories! Inspiration brings us joy; Comparison is the thief of joy!
“Comparison if the thief of joy” – Thomas Jefferson
It seems like almost a decade ago … or it WAS actually almost a decade ago … that I discovered the world of social media. I found a place full of profiles and people I could get in touch with from all over the world! Once I began to work in the world of blogging and social influencing, I soon realized the difference between scrolling with intent and doing so kind of mindlessly.
You are not alone!
You’re not the only one guilty of it! Have you ever been on your phone with the intention of finding that perfect workout or to check up on my amazing bunch of friends, when all of a sudden … 2 HOURS HAVE PASSED.
Here’s a sidenote solution for ways to ban yourself from the interwebs … be locked inside of a 140+ degree infrared sauna where your phone may melt. (If you follow me on Instagram, you know all about this new addiction of mine …)
Anyway, squirrel moment OVER.
How many times have you sat there and compared yourself to someone else on social media?
Ironically, I’ve experienced the comparison of others to MY OWN fitness progress I share on my profiles, including this photo I shared on Instagram. Let’s use me as an example.
Comments were extremely positive. Messages I received reminded me of just how easily one photo can create a lot of assumption. Many women asked me how I was able to ‘lose the weight so quickly after my little one’ or what could they do to speed up the process. What was unspoken was the amount of TIME that elapsed between the first photo and the second photo! It took me almost 2 YEARS to go from the first photo to the second. There was NO quick fix, NO magic diet or workout – PATIENCE AND SLOW PROGRESS got me from point A to point B.
If we dissect this:
COMPARISON = Man, I’m __ months or years along in my post-baby journey, how come I don’t look like her? I’m not doing something right …
INSPIRATION = Wow, this woman really put in a lot of blood, sweat, and tears into her fitness journey! I know I can do it because she did it! Despite being a caretaker for her mother, caring for a new baby, handling a household as a wife, and working all of the fun jobs – she STILL DID IT!
There’s a vast difference between the perception we have when being looking for inspiration from someone rather than comparing ourselves to their 1 photo or post we’re looking at.
I once used to look at profiles and compared the size of my house, the amount of money someone else made, the fabulousness of someone else’s nursery while mine felt small and incomparable. SO MUCH TIME WASTED on looking outward instead of inward, right?
I can tell you I’ve done it more times than I can count. It hasn’t always been around physical appearance or progress. I’m sure many of us have compared our status or position to that of others and immediately feel like we’re not quite up to par. The funny thing is, we are always right where we are supposed to be in life for reasons we don’t even realize!
To shake us out of our comparison RUT (ON or OFF-line,) we should reflect on a few things before making assumptions on something we’re tripping about:
- What is this person’s story?
- What is MY story?
- How can I take away POSITIVE inspiration from this post?
- How can I shake off any COMPARISON feelings from this post?
- Do I need to step away for a moment to recharge my mojo?
Shoot, we might need a TIME OUT or to walk away from the interwebs for a moment – shocker!
There is HOPE!
Taking time to reframe how we view what we’re taking in with our eyes can shift perspective in a big way!
YOU are AMAZING in your own right!
We are ALL different and on different paths for our own reasons.
We find inspiration from each other with the right MINDSET!