Embracing Failure

More times often than not, we tend to beat ourselves up over the things that we do wrong. I mean, am I right?

It doesn’t matter what we’re doing whether it’s a school assignment, or a goal we’ve set up for her self with fitness, or a job position that were looking to achieve – we tend to focus on what we need to work on and what we didn’t do well rather than what we did right.
I’ve been guilty of this and I still lamb guilty of this. I like to think of myself as an overachiever which means they always want to do my absolute best, but if I spend most of my time assessing my failure in a negative light I’ll never realize the potential that I have to do the good things.
I remember growing up and always being the girl with her face in the books. I had lots of honors classes, I always wanted to do my absolute best in school. To be honest with you, the pressure never came from my parents. It came from me. I would get an A- or s B+ and rack my brain over all the questions and all of the topics that I could’ve improved upon instead of focusing on all of the positive things I did to get me to that higher grade level.
As I grew older into my 20s, I started to become a little bit more of a free spirit and I didn’t hold myself to such a high degree of expectation. What, that didn’t mean that I didn’t beat myself up over every mistake and every bad decision-we all know the bad decisions and mistakes we can make in our 20s LOL.
It wasn’t until I entered my late 20s into my [now] 30s that I’ve grown to realize I need to celebrate my failures and use them as a chance to re-strategize and plan my next steps instead of beating myself up over them. I believe changing my career into fitness and using my personal experience to help others has literally change that perspective.
… When I had a bad relationship breakup situation, I learned more of what I wanted in a partner
… When I ate something ‘not on my food plan’ I saw it as a chance to confuse my body and get back on the horse
… When I didn’t get passed on in the first round of Master Trainers I saw it as a chance to improve my skills
… When I started to feel indifferent about my corporate job, I saw it as a chance to do what I LOVED …
✓ See them as LEARNING EXPERIENCES – do we ever learn if we don’t first mess  up?
✓ Take a moment to reassess the ‘Failure’ and see what can be done to grow that skill or area
✓ Celebrate your ATTEMPT – you tried to do something and messing up or having a hiccup only reminds you of that
✓ Take out the emotion and put in a plan of action, don’t get hung up on the FEELING of failure as much as what you can do to move forward
✓ VENT to your support systems like friends and family around you and ask for HONEST feedback from them – they love you and want you to succeed
✓ Know that the CHALLENGES we face in life are our biggest times to push through and increase our internal and external STRENGTH
This is my favorite graphic for FAMOUS FAILURES:
that quote at the bottom HIT HOME!

What have your life’s failures taught you to embrace or learn?

HI! I'M KAT - I am a pug-mom, wife, NASM Certified Personal Trainer, & Fitness Coach focusing on living the fit life while tackling work, coaching others - doing it all! My blog is to hold me accountable for all the goals I plan on accomplishing and also a way for me to try to inspire others through my own experiences - if I can do it ANYONE can! Fitness is a huge part of my life as well as travel and seeing all that life has to be lived! PAY IT FORWARD!

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    January 19, 2016, 8:38 am

    I suffer badly from self-doubt, I am my own worst critic but I am slowly learning to forgive myself and remind myself of all my achievements. I love the pic of famous failures – puts things into perspective that everyone fails, the ones that succeed are the ones that get back up and keep at it.

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      January 19, 2016, 10:34 am

      It’s all a growing process for sure girlie – thanks for stopping by!
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