While most everyone else is celebrating Cinco De Mayo, there can only be one major event on the horizon in our personal world: Our Anniversary! It’s crazy to think that 6 years ago, on May 5, 2012, we said our vows in a little gazebo in the beautiful country of Antigua (at Sandals Grande Antigua to be exact.) In those 6 years, so much has evolved – so much has changed.
After 6 years of marriage, I’m going to start by saying I’m not all about the mushy gushy stuff. As I KEEP IT REAL on my blog, I feel inclined to share a little bit of background with you about us while also telling it like it is. It’s not all hearts and butterflies nor is it meant to be. I always say that Gary is the one guy I would love to fight with for the rest of our lives, while also sneaking in hugs and kisses. To me, if you’re not fighting fair, you’re not growing by and through conflict.I’ve realized that marriage is NOT like it is in the movies or according to what you see on social media most of the time – it’s the moments you don’t see [behind the scenes] that are where true character is built.
In the beginning
We met on May 3, 2010, in the company gym we both worked out at. We had our first ‘official’ date two days later – on Cinco De Mayo. We were both ‘happily single’ living independent lives but both knew that God lead us to each other for bigger reasons than we could see right in front of us.
In this particular season of life, I was content. I just came off of being in a string of unhealthy relationships. I was finding my groove as a single gal who enjoyed time alone (I still do.) It would be fitting that I’d meet someone in the same season of life as I was in. Our seasons were about to change and evolve as we learned to grow together as a team; stubborn personalities and all.
Adjusting to life as a team
We both had to look our stubborn selves in the mirror and see that we were better at life together rather than apart. Gary learned early on that I was a very independent girl who ‘didn’t need anyone to help me.’ I learned that he was a naturally born leader with something to teach at any given moment. We fought to be the alpha-leader in the relationship, only to realize we both wouldn’t get to wear that hat at all. Little inklings in our brain would tell us that the grass is greener on the other side, that we could do things on our own. The enemy would love for us all to believe that lie. Instead, we’ve worked to see that we both have strengths that the other has an opportunity with. It’s never perfect, and we still butt heads, but we have worked to see ourselves as a team who’s better together through communication and with open hearts.
Gary was very quiet about his diabetes with me in the beginning. I was very stubborn about how it impacted him in the beginning. In THIS POST I share how I had to adjust to life with someone I love having Type 1 Diabetes and how we worked as a team for this area in our lives. We were together for 2 years before we got married. I figured why not keep Cinco De Mayo as a day of celebration Gary was BOUND to remember as our anniversary date!
Parenthood changes the whole game
In my year 5 post, I spoke about how parenthood shook us up that year. An obvious challenge, taking care of a tiny human who we both loved infinitely proved to be just the beginning of our ‘toughest year to date.” Life took on its own twists and turns as we juggled responsibilities of parenthood while also seeing we were responsible for keeping our marriage healthy. It had to be a 50/50 deal. My mom joined us just two weeks after our 5-year anniversary and our house got even fuller and marriage became an even bigger challenge.
Not only we were wrangling a growing kiddo who was transitioning to a toddler by the end of 2017, but we were trying to balance taking care of everyone in the house. We had Tayler to think about, K of course, and my mom. Thank God for our amazing family and friends who’ve made us see that Vegas is where we were REborn. We found comfort in the support around us and through our foundation of faith. God kept us strong through the many arguments, moments of anger, resentment we felt towards each other. We had to realize that we needed to be the glue that held everyone together and to make each other a priority now more than ever. This year, 2018, has proved to be miles better. We each have had some amazing career changes and opportunities and have found a balance between being our individual best so that we can be at our best for one another.
Now that my mom is super healthy — PRAISE JESUS — it’s allowed for us to leverage time together while we have the best babysitter we could ask for watching K. I still find it a challenge to juggle, since we do help with medications and appointments, but it’s miles away from what 2017 had in store for us. We’ve taken more time to plan our family goals and trips again and can see past the fog.
I’m gonna lean up against you, you just lean right back against me. This way, we don’t have to sleep with our heads in the mud.
Gary has not only shown me he loves me, but he loves my family like his own. That in and of itself is an admirable trait I hope he knows I cherish dearly.
They say that the traditional gift for the 6 year anniversary is iron, while the modern one is wood.
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17
In a nutshell, this year has taught me that we make each other better through both the shining moments and the tough ones.
6 Years Together – the Numbers:
- 4 Countries Visited
- 12 states visited
- 1 kiddo together
- 2 doggies loved
- 2 that actually mattered
- Limitless laughs together
- 10+ races run together
As we look into our 7th year ahead together, I know things will continue to evolve. I’m so pumped to share soon some amazing news Gary has in store for his personal fitness goals as well as mine with career opportunities. This little sh** knows I love him more than anything, even if I have a terrible way of showing it sometimes.
We’re imperfectly meant to be together and will honor our marriage covenant by being realistic and working through the ick.