Dreaming of a world in technicolor …
One where we can take moments to find our JOY while pushing PAUSE on the tendency to keep persevering in the face of trauma (which seems to never let up…)
… one where folks [not directly impacted by the ISMS] take stock in the need to do SOMETHING and that SOMETHING is better than the nothing that has us frozen, unable to see progress only happens with incremental steps by ALL of us, namely those with the most privilege and the least proximity to the ISMs.
… I hold onto HOPE. Hope in selfless compassion.
Come on world …
#realtalk #loveoneanother #beagoodhuman #miami #miamiliving #wynwood #artsdistrict #miamiartscene #dei #diversityequityinclusion #antidiscrimination #eracism #compassion #instadaily #instagood
Altered sensory reactivity, hyper- or hypo-sensitivity to stimuli, is a part of the #autism spectrum that relates to my personal experiences. Hypersensitivity, for me, is when I have an increased response to extreme or bright light or loud sound sensitivity. Hyposensitivity can mean I have lowered or decreased responses or fluctuaions with pain, temperature, and touch thresholds. Sometimes, sounds can be of a specific pitch and cause me to have blurred vision or slurred speech as do super bright lights. Relaxing music and calming artistic experiences have always served as a way for me to feel positive sensory responses and trigger #happystimming for me to release energy I hold in my body.
We were able to attend the @beyondvangogh @vangoghsarasota #beyondvangogh experience this weekend and the combination of beautiful music, transformational learning about an artist I’ve always loved, and a positive sensory environment for both me and my family to all vibe out to - watching my little dance and dance without stopping made my heart happy.
I’m so excited we were able to attend this traveling exhibition, as I’ve followed it for some time ...
#beyondvangogh #vangoghsarasota #immersiveart #art #artofinstagram #instagood #instadaily #sensory #actuallyautistic #autism #sensoryprocessing #artisticexpression
“Treat others the way you want to be treated” was a Golden rule philosophy so many of us were taught at a young age.
As I’ve grown to understand that as a questionable truth, I’ve realized that we are all so uniquely different with regard to what we need. Particularly for marginalized communities, our main goal is for others to truly see how we live life and to treat us according to what we need as a result, not based on their lived experience that is comes [many times] with privilege that we don’t have.
Non-marginalized folks: take time to lean into others’ experiences to shift your perspective and support to aim for authentic inclusion.
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#dei #diversityequityinclusion #themoreyouknow #learn #grow #ally #diversityandinclusion #amplifymarginalizedvoices #dobetter #instagood #instadaily #realtalk #actuallyautistic #allyship #advocacy #activism #antidiscrimination #education #antiracism
So much more than a graduate’s degree 👩🏽🎓 📜👩🏽🎓📜👩🏽🎓📜
Earning my Master of Science degree from @caluofpa this Mother’s Day weekend means so much to me looking back at the journey it took to get here.
My first attempt at going to college, I didn’t really know what I wanted to do and the overwhelm that came from attending class in-person was too much for me then. Right before life got really messy in 2019 I decided to finish what I’d started and began my journey of the accelerated program to complete my Bachelor’s degree and segway into the graduate school.
… I was a new mom …
… I was taking care of my own mom …
… my brain had to figure out how to absorb learning in a bunch of new ways …
… I had many moments where I wanted to quit ….
I can remember so many times I had to write papers or do assignments while feeding the kiddo or having her sit on my back and color while I tried to focus.
I know that college isn’t for everyone. I know, also, that it isn’t accessible for everyone which is something that needs to change.
I’m most proud that I showed my little and myself that I can finish what I start. I can devote myself to prioritizing ME.
Happy Mother’s Day weekend to every caretaker, birthing human, mother figure, who sacrifices so much for our future through kiddos.
We’re planting seeds for trees 🌳 we will never see grow …
[ID: photo 1 - Katrina a brown skinned femme in a black graduate’s cap and gown with red and gold accents with her arms out wide and honors cords in front of a brick building.
Photo 2 - same components of photo 1 with Katrina posing arms down.
Photo 3 - Katrina in same graduate outfit with partner Gary a white masculine person with a bald head in a blue top and gray pants and their little human who is light skinned and has long brown curly hair in a floral dress in front of a red CALU backdrop
Photo 4 - Katrina and her little, same components of photo 3
Photo 5 and 6- Katrina’s name in the graduation commencement program for honors for students with disabilities and under Master of Exercise Science: health promotion and nutrition as a focus]
#graduation #mastersdegree #masterofscience #ms #caluofpa #family
I don't tend to share much in the way of personal posts as they relate to my family and home life on the interwebs these days. Always having a right to privacy, I have a huge belief that we own the ability to share what we want to without having to open access to every single facet of our lives unless we decide to do so. My relationship and marriage are one of those things that I have stayed mum about over the course of the last two years as sh*t got rough AF.
Previous to 2020, we were having a rough patch in our relationship. The layers run deep, as there was so much going on with us both individually and also in our respective circles of family and life. Once 2020 came, that became an even harder phase to handle together as we navigated loss in the family, life as parents, limited support, individual health issues, deep-rooted personal traumas, and a pandemic all at the same time. By the time that I hit my worst #Autistic burnout in 2021, needing to unmask for my own health, we were a fizzled-out version of what we once were - barely able to hold on any longer to our vows or promises to one another.
I share all of that to say that we now see the light. We had to tune out the noise and focus on ourselves individually, heal from our own traumas through the support of therapists, and work to get to know one another as we are now 12 years after dating. We are around folks who support us and lift up our marriage, we have people in our lives who lend an ear whenever we need it and are able to see each other as a priority in our lives so that we can be better parents leading by example for our little.
Marriages are not easy because life is not easy. Marriages and relationships can also be what you make of them; they should also be on the terms of the individuals in that marriage to create a life that makes sense for them unique to their situation. I truly don’t think relationships show their strength until you go through the hardest seasons of loss (from all angles) in life.
Today is our 10-year wedding anniversary. I feel this is the most meaningful anniversary we've celebrated so far as humans who've experienced immense growth.
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Each month is a chance to take pause and work to educate and learn about so many amazing cultures and people. If you’re someone not a part of the AAHPI community, that means you have the opportunity to take pause and listen to viewpoints of those within the community while also amplifying and celebrating all that we are and have been through.
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Slide 1: All AAPI experiences are nuanced. (Also, AAHPI Asian American Native Hawaiian Pacific Islander)
Slide 2: Growing up, in a multicultural family, I felt very connected to my Chinese identity. Whether it was through the food I made with my mom, the times I spent with my Chinese family, or the stories I heard about my ancestors. (Also, a photo of Katrina age 6 brown skin and black curly hair with her mother who has light tan skin and black straight hair)
Slide 3: Being Black and Asian American gave me an esoteric perspective in society.
I felt both connected and disconnected at times from my Asian community depending on the context of the situation or people's understanding of me being me. (Photo of Katrina at high school graduation, black scoop neck shirt and long curly hair with a jade pendant on her neck)
Slide 4: Misconceptions derived from perceptions such as the Model Minority Myth sometimes gave me the feeling of being an outsider. The notion that I had to "pick a side" made me to see just how harmful stereotypes can be for marginalized communities.
Slide 5: My family's journey to the States reminds me of my roots grounded in resolve and triumph to make it in a country they knew nothing about. (Photo of Katrina in gray clothing holding her daughter and her mother to her side in front of decorative lantern lights of all colors)
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#aapiheritagemonth #honorculture #marginalizedvoices #dogood #bebetter #asianamericans
So four intersectional #auties walk into a Zoom room …
And can’t stop talking - or maybe it was just me lol.
I was so grateful to spend time with @transteachertales @autisticblackgirl @autienelle this last week in our discussion opening up Perspective on the Spectrum. We unpacked so many topics around #masking, #stimming, our experiences in high #sensory environments and how folks can be mindful in order to offer the right support and #inclusion for us.
** @barrys fam - check your inbox for the debrief and recording!
We quickly realized that a PART 2 Is needed (here or on Zoom) to keep the conversation going - would you be open to joining us?
#autisminclusion #autismawarenessmonth #autismawareness #autism #actuallyautistic #beagoodhuman #themoreyouknow #learn #grow #amplify #makespace #dei #diversityequityinclusion #diversityandinclusion #neurodivergent #neurodiversity
✨ Good human appreciation post ✨
I speak a lot about how since my #autism diagnosis specifically, it's been a time that I've needed to unmask and be around only people I feel I can be myself around (or close to it) so that I am no longer conforming to a way that overwhelms me and makes me feel depleted and “fake”. Sylvia @ibyqueen_xo is one of those people, probably the person who I can with be this way with the most - even throughout the cycles of our lives and places we’ve both lived in the last 15+ years.
We help each other when needed, she never ever calls any of my actions into question, and we lift each other up to be the best moms that we can and best partners that we can even when things are hard. She's been someone who has been there when I wanted to run away (literally) as things got too much to handle - making sure I knew I was not alone and sat with me in my icky moments.
I am grateful for this woman. I love her like a sister. I hope she knows how amazing she is and that her existence is appreciated beyond.
Photo 1 -Katrina in black sunglasses and Sylvia in teal @goodr sunglasses with white shirts in front of a colorful wall in #Wynwood
Photo 2 - Katrina in a maroon top and black shorts with Sylvia in a black tank and gray shorts in front of a multicolored “Miami” wall mural
Photo 3 - Katrina in a black workout top and shorts and Sylvia in the same type of outfit with @caliboyy Oscar inside of the red room of @barrys Midtown Miami smiling and flexing their arms
Photo 4 - Sylvia in a white tank top and Jean shorts in front of a black and white art mural wall
Photo 5 - Katrina in a gray tank top and black pants, Sylvia in a black tank top and jeans in front of a greenery wall that says “Dímelo Papi” in pink neon on a dark green couch
Photo 6 - Katrina and Sylvia making super silly pre-boat ride faces in the same outfits as photo 5
Photo 7 - Katrina behind Sylvia and a Wynwood wall making more silly faces in white shirts
Photo 8 - the two of us, again, in front of the Miami skyline on a boat]
#instagood #instadaily #miami #miamitrip #bestfriends #bestie #actuallyautistic #floridalife #roadtrip #friends
Every human has the right to be their unique self.
Particularly, as an #autistic adult, I’ve uncovered many parts of myself that make me ME - also known as traits. No one type of human - no matter what category they fall into - is exactly like the other. Raising awareness this month and all year long about #autism had me thinking about how folks also try to put us into buckets and create assimilations that are actually false and not individualized. Treating folks like individuals enables them to be supported and included in a way that means the most to them respectively.
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Every Autistic person is unique in their own right.
My autistic traits:
* Sensory sensitivity with bright light
* Sensory sensitivity with multiple sounds
* Vestibular dysfunction
* Social communication variances
* Difficulty making friends
* Passionate special interests
* Emotion moderation sensitivity ...
* Sensory sensitivity to loud sounds
* Unable to read certain social situations
* Feeling the need to mimic
* Sensitivity to touch, cold, hot (allodynia)
* Hypermobile joints
* Sensitivity to taste, food textures
* Highly empathetic & fixated on injustice ...
I'm also highly empathetic, but don't show it in the societal stereotypical way most would expect to see (crying, using voice inflection, being close physically.)
Every human has the traits that make them beautifully unique and authentic; if we weren't unique, the world would be a very bland place.
#actuallyautistic #autismawareness #autisticadults #autistic #autisticadult #beagoodhuman #empathy #dei #themoreyouknow #authenticity #instagood #instadaily #infographic #diversityandinclusion #diversityequityinclusion #humanity